Indeed I'm back, after a loooong hiatus from blogging. Moving on from just a space to consolidate my thoughts, I'm now looking to get more out of blogging, share tips & tricks and write in general!
A lot has happened since the last time I blogged here (sparing the details). Hubby and I have literally exchanged roles - now, I am the commuter, while he is Mr. (working, of course) Mom! I leave home at 6:30 am everyday, and return exactly 12 hours later. My daughter is fast asleep when I am pulling out of the garage, and eagerly waiting for me to get home in the evenings. Dad takes care of her bath, dressing up and daycare drop off. This has become my family's routine, and I must admit, I am not liking it!
I miss
* Being there when my little girl wakes up in the morning with the contented smile on her face
* Cuddling up with her just before she is up
* Bathing her and playing with bubbles and water
* Dressing her up and making her look all pretty-pretty or all tom-boyish
* A hug and a kiss during daycare drop off
* Just being there
These may sound like chores, but I beg to disagree. I have enjoyed these little things every single day! It's really these "chores" that make my day, give me a sense of satisfication. Right now, I am guilty as charged (by myself). I am looking to change this, but this is going to be a BIG change, and needs to happen at the opportune moment - a moment, that is yet to come. For now, I need to keep my calm, enjoy everything that comes my way, and prepare for the moment that will bring back the joys I so long for!
There's a lot to be done, and I need start working (pun intended) now!
April 4, 2011
October 19, 2009
To Expect is Human, To Accept is Divine!
A few issues having been nagging me for a while now (will not go into details here), and I had been wondering how best to deal with it. It bothered me day and night; the sooner I figured it out, the better for me. So one day, while my princess lay sleeping in my arms, I thought...
Change is difficult, almost impossible, especially this late in the game. It has been very foolish of me to have been expecting that. Instead, if I could accept things the way they are, it would become so much easier to deal with.
Suddenly, I felt better. It seemed like a huge burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I could see straight ahead again. You can't see far when you are pinned down with great expectations from yourself and others. You feel rooted, unable to move, let alone in the right direction.
The shorter version of this post's title, "Accept, don't Expect" keeps ringing in my head, constantly reminding me of my newfound philosophy! This, I must say, suddenly seems to have made me a lot more patient, and I am loving every bit of that! Works well towards my concerns in the previous post.
Now, I completely understand the words of wisdom that none other than my dearest mom passed on me, a philosophy, that I could not have embraced any better! Thank You, Amma.
Change is difficult, almost impossible, especially this late in the game. It has been very foolish of me to have been expecting that. Instead, if I could accept things the way they are, it would become so much easier to deal with.
Suddenly, I felt better. It seemed like a huge burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I could see straight ahead again. You can't see far when you are pinned down with great expectations from yourself and others. You feel rooted, unable to move, let alone in the right direction.
The shorter version of this post's title, "Accept, don't Expect" keeps ringing in my head, constantly reminding me of my newfound philosophy! This, I must say, suddenly seems to have made me a lot more patient, and I am loving every bit of that! Works well towards my concerns in the previous post.
Now, I completely understand the words of wisdom that none other than my dearest mom passed on me, a philosophy, that I could not have embraced any better! Thank You, Amma.
October 15, 2009
Patience, Passion or Both?
One question has been knocking on every brain cell for the last two weeks - how do the people working at day care, single moms, stay-at-home-moms manage to care for the little ones? Is it just passion, or an abundance of patience, or both?
Since my parents returned to India 20 days back, I have been staying home with my almost-six-month old kiddoo. This is just the beginning of my three month time off from work. These last few days have been such an eye-opener to me, I tell you! I figured how much work goes into managing all the household work plus the little "Home Entertainment System" that I have. It does take up all your time, but sure is well worth it in the end.
My typical day starts at 6 in the morning when I shower up before hubby leaves to work at 6:30. I get about an hour to myself before Maanya is up, and I usually try to catch up on household chores then, except, occasionally (like today) when I go online to check my mails. Once the little one is up, it's all whole nine yards - nursing, diapering, baby bath, rock her to sleep (and catch a few winks myself right on the rocking chair). Before I know it, it's evening and time to step for a little stroll! Once we are back home, that's when my patience is tested. I will need to get done with cooking, and put Maanya to sleep (the princess protests if her dad rocks her at night!). And oh, I am still working on getting her to at least nap in her crib. It's baby progress, if you know what I mean. I am so exhausted by the time I hit sack, the night seems to just whizz by, what with waking up a couple times to nurse the baby as well.
So I wonder, how does a single mom manage? What is it that folks at day care centers have that keep them going every day? Is it a huge pot of patience that they have access to, or do they just love kids so much that nothing else matters? I absolutely love kids, and am very patient as well, but there are still times that actually test me! What about stay-at-home-moms? Does everyone feel the same, stay-at-home and otherwise? Are there times when you feel you need some time to yourself?
All in all, I must say that I am really glad to have taken a little break from work and am enjoying every minute I am getting with Maanya!!
Since my parents returned to India 20 days back, I have been staying home with my almost-six-month old kiddoo. This is just the beginning of my three month time off from work. These last few days have been such an eye-opener to me, I tell you! I figured how much work goes into managing all the household work plus the little "Home Entertainment System" that I have. It does take up all your time, but sure is well worth it in the end.
My typical day starts at 6 in the morning when I shower up before hubby leaves to work at 6:30. I get about an hour to myself before Maanya is up, and I usually try to catch up on household chores then, except, occasionally (like today) when I go online to check my mails. Once the little one is up, it's all whole nine yards - nursing, diapering, baby bath, rock her to sleep (and catch a few winks myself right on the rocking chair). Before I know it, it's evening and time to step for a little stroll! Once we are back home, that's when my patience is tested. I will need to get done with cooking, and put Maanya to sleep (the princess protests if her dad rocks her at night!). And oh, I am still working on getting her to at least nap in her crib. It's baby progress, if you know what I mean. I am so exhausted by the time I hit sack, the night seems to just whizz by, what with waking up a couple times to nurse the baby as well.
So I wonder, how does a single mom manage? What is it that folks at day care centers have that keep them going every day? Is it a huge pot of patience that they have access to, or do they just love kids so much that nothing else matters? I absolutely love kids, and am very patient as well, but there are still times that actually test me! What about stay-at-home-moms? Does everyone feel the same, stay-at-home and otherwise? Are there times when you feel you need some time to yourself?
All in all, I must say that I am really glad to have taken a little break from work and am enjoying every minute I am getting with Maanya!!
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